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prt-3 How To Become a Submissive- if you don't think you are yet

Submission like Love is a Choice
a choice you make to give or withhold
a choice we make daily and from moment to moment.
If there is love and respect . . love, commitment and submission will flow.
When respect moves out so will love and there is no submission in that. . . so you either have it and it grows in understanding, or you can be open and engage as . . . . and when you are ready
But now we are moving into the true areas of submission --submission of the soul. Scary stuff!
If there is trust. . . and I certainly do NOT :!: mean blind, untested trust. . . you can let it happen. . .that is all :|
if there is a viable seed it will grow and live and continue unless some event plucks it. . . if carefully tended it may well bloom and bear fruit!
are we not like seeds :?: and plants :?:
Now my husband orders for me at restaurants all the time, but i feel loved and protected when he does so, but he always asks me what I like!! I am guessing you have the same. . . and yes those actions…

quote du jour

Beauty is an ecstasy; it is as simple as hunger. There is really nothing to be said about it. It is like the perfume of a rose: you can smell it and that is all.

    ~~ W. Somerset Maugham

careful what you wish for . . .

From Publisher's Weekly . . .
The 50 Shades trilogy is entrenched in the top three spots on Amazon's Kindle chart, but a number of e-books with BDSM elements have also crept into the top 100. As of July 17, excluding the 50 Shades books, there were seven titles with BDSM themes in the top 100, which means that, including E.L. James's books, more than one out of 10 bestselling Kindle books fell into this category.
The seven non-50 Shades e-books included Sylvia Day's Bared to You, which was #8, and that book's upcoming sequel, Reflected in You (#65). Day's books are published by Penguin and are the only two that have print versions. The other five BDSM titles in the top 100 are e-book only and are $2.99 and under. The seven titles, all of which were published after Vintage rereleased the 50 Shades books in April 2012, are as follows:
Bared to You by Sylvia Day (#8)
Anything He Wants by Sara Fawkes (#25)
Training Tessa by Lyla Sinclair (#28)
By His Desire by Kate G…

sacrilegious Sunday

"The Superior now informed me that having taken the black veil, it only remained that I should swear the three oaths customary on becoming a nun; and that some explanation would be necessary from her. I was now, she told me, to have access to every part of the edifice, even the cellar, where two of the sisters were imprisoned for causes that she did not mention. I must be informed that one of my great duties was to obey the priests in all things; and this I soon learnt, to my utter astonishment and horror, was to live in the practice of criminal intercourse with them. I expressed some of the feelings which this announcement excited in me, which came upon me like a flash of lightning; but the only effect was to set her arguing with me, in favour of the crime, representing it as a virtue acceptable to God, and honourable to me. The priests, she said, were not situated like other men, being forbidden to marry; while they lived secluded, laborious, and self-denying lives for our sal…

the scent of leather

There are undeniable links in our brains between aroma and both mood and memory. There's no escaping the fact that certain fragrances can very strongly evoke memories of long past events, friends, family, and (of course) former lovers.

The smell of leather is one particular aroma that tends to elicit a strong emotional response. I'll never forget regularly walking the length of the local mall with my mother, trekking away from the stores where she usually shopped, on down to the chain leather goods store she loved to visit. It wasn't that mom bought anything at the store, neither black nor brown leather were her style, she just loved to visit for the smell.

Mom wasn't a particularly sexual creature, and the best I can remember her visits to the leather store to sniff were the closest I ever got to witnessing her take a hedonistic thrill from anything, she really was that much of a prude. For whatever reason, for whatever warm emotion it evoked, she did love that leathe…

prt-2 How To Become a Submissive- if you don't think you are yet

Cringing at the word Submission
At one time I hated the word submission. . . I cringed every time it was mentioned and I had heard many eloquent and passionate sermons thumped out browbeating women of their need to be submissive to their husbands.  But with time and patience of the Creator, I have come to understand submission in a deep and beautiful way.
In our relationship I am submissive. .. . it does carry over into everyday life. . . but it is when we play- that it becomes front and center.. . .and it is then I call him sir or Master and remember to say and ask for things with much fanfare and flair!. . . we each have equal but very different responsibilities. . . and I always give way to what he wants. . . and of course he sees to it that I am happy.
I am a person who works best independently. . .as in finding appropriate solutions and doing a fine job. I do not like to have someone scrutinizing every move unless I ask for it because I am learning a new thing. If I have a job,…

bound protest

Protesting in support of the arrested members of Pussy Riot punk-band, an activist was symbolically ‘crucified’ on the cross in front of  St. Petersburg's Cathedral of the Resurrection.

I can probably think of a few better uses for that cross than a political protest. 

 It's a crying shame nobody brought a flogger to the party!

geeky stuff

From the "I fucking love science" page on Facebook.

we're having a heat wave, a tropical heat wave . . .

Record high temps forecast here today, with heat index reaching into the 115-120 degree range.

money talks, sodomy walks

I'm writing today about child rapists.

If that's a topic that bothers you, please move along, nothing to see here.  To be honest, it's a topic that bothers me, as I am a sex abuse survivor myself, a victim of repeated criminal sexual assaults by a serial abuser.

No, my abuser wasn't a football coach, but it was a similar trusted authority, a piano teacher.  The incidents started when I was 12 years old, and lasted for more than three years.  In relative terms, I was fortunate, in that I wasn't sodomized, my abuser simply enjoyed sucking the penis of young men.  The guilt that I feel isn't so much for the acts which were performed, instead it's that I did nothing to prevent it from happening again to another young man.

I didn't tell anyone about the abuse until I was 18 years old.  I told the sweet girl who became my first wife, and I have to say that she was incredibly supportive.  I think she handled it far better than when I learned that my second w…

prt-1 How To Become a Submissive- if you don't think you are yet

This is a script from a conversation I had with another person on a submissives forum. . Names, etc have been changed.

Sent: Wed May 13, 2009 12:29 pm by Daisy hi Serafina thank you for the welcome note. in regard to the parent - child scenario, no i don't have children. i don't roleplay in this regard either, rather i use it as an example as if a child is punished for misbehaving or not following the parents rules, so should a wife be. i know punishment was always a deterrent for me as a child so i feel it should work as an adult. unfortunately, for me my husband does not punish so infractions are more frequent. i'm hopeful that joining this group will help me to be more obedient. i cant seem to locate a place where there are a concrete set of rules to follow. Daisy
Re: welcome note Sent: Wed May 13, 2009 5:44 pm by Serafina well thanks for pm-ing me I did not expect a private answer. . . You see, I am so opposite of your thinking. That does not mean that either of us is…

Dungeon Bed Edition - TMI Tuesday: July 24, 2012

Tell us about your (dungeon) bed.  ;-)
1. What size (King, queen, full, twin)?Remember Goldilocks?  She had a bit of a time choosing her bed, and so did we.  A king sized bed is too big.  A twin or full sized bed is far too small.  We found our queen sized bed to be just right~!  We purchased the bed earlier this year, custom built by the fine gentlemen over at DungeonBeds, a once in a lifetime purchase.  It goes without saying that a lot of thought went into every one of the bed's particular attributes.  In the end, we decided that a king sized bed really was a bit larger than we wanted, if for no other reason than because the bed is built for bondage, and my Serafina is just 5'2".  

2. What mattress construction (conventional springs, air bed, water bed, Tempurpedic-type)? Right now we are using a conventional mattress topped by an inch of memory foam.  We'll be switching to a Tempurpedic-type mattress sometime on down the road, just not sure when.

3. What type fu…

quote du jour

I found in the pain and even in the shame a blend of sensuality that left me craving rather than fearing to feel it again from the same hand.
    ~ Jean-Jacques Rousseau

How many Spoons?

Spoons are an interesting topic in a sex blog  Most of us use spooning in context with a position that most of us enjoy.  And there are variations on the theme.  But today I am not discussing spooning.  Today is about the spoon count.

Master and I both have some health issues that sometimes interfere with our intentions.  It affects not only our daily life, but also while we are at play.  Some time ago we came across  The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino  that changed our dynamics of how we arrange things- if possible.  We'd encourage our readers to read her wonderful explanation.

The theory of the spoons is that we have  multitudes of spoons in our arsenal from the time we are born to the day we cease.  As we tread through our life journey we lose a number along the way.  It might be as a result of injury or  illnesses, but we break bones and don't stay in condition, or have serious health issues befall us.  By mid-life most of us no longer are in possession of…

periodic table

This one is for all of you that might think a periodic table is a map of when your wife menstruates.

"Yes, you may."

I used a pair of heavy steel wrist shackles on Serafina last night, the first time she's ever been restrained by anything metal.  Although it will never become the most used form of restraint here at House   Samadhi, it was both fun and exciting to incorporate such a different prop into our lovemaking.

Our evening began with some quiet discussion together in our bed.  To put it into the best BDSM term I can conceive, we were involved in 'negotiation', although that's not an entirely accurate term, anymore than is the word 'discussion'.  We've just passed the one year anniversary of the time when my Serafina was freed from caregiver responsibilities, the time where we were able to concentrate more fully on ourselves and our relationship, the period where we began to identify Serafina's desire to please me as 'slavery' rather than submission.

My wife is one of the most profoundly submissive individuals I've ever known.  Although she has strong…

TMI Tuesday What are your 50 shades?

TMI Tuesday 7/17/2012 DARING: What are your 50 shades?Today's TMI Tuesday is brought to you by the darling Serafina, - Servant of Michael, goddess incarnate, and First Lady of the House of Samadhi . . . 

1. I enjoy the idea that my partner wants to inflict pain on me that:
a. makes me curious
b. is titillating and sexually arousing
c. that leaves me screaming and/or crying because that’s the way I like it Serafina's answer - no doubt about it B.  No doubt what feels good can change as well.  And it depends on a variety of things within the moment.  If I am in a dark mood, pain is absolutely not wanted, instead I need comforting and understanding. 

2. Do you like being forced to dress or act in a way that is humiliating? If yes, please describe. If no, why not?Serafina's answer - I resist humiliation because I lived that way for many years.  My upbringing was extremely strict and I was shy, and we wore clothes that were different from my school-mates and were not all…

Quote of the Day - 7/16/2012

He who is conceived in a cage yearns for the cage.
     ~~ Yevgeny Yevtushenko

you can get pretty much whatever you want if you flash your . . . medal

"As the official supplier of condoms and lubricants, we hope the donation will help athletes improve their achievements between the sheets,"
    ~~ Durex Condoms "There's a lot of sex going on."
    ~~ Hope Solo, Olympic Soccer

"It's like Vegas, you learn not to ask a lot of questions."
    ~~ John Godina, Olympic Shotput

"I'd say it's 70 percent to 75 percent of Olympians. Hey, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do."
    ~~ Ryan Lochte, Olympic Swimming

"It's like the first day of college, you're nervous, super excited. Everyone's meeting people and trying to hook up with someone."
    ~~ Tony Azevedo, Olympic Water Polo

"What happens at Olympic Village stays at Olympic village. There's a lot of stress pent up over the week, so it's safe to say that some good times happen."     ~~ Emily Brydon, Olympic Skiing

"Olympic athletes have to display an unnatural ... level of self-dis…

what would Dudley do?

Perhaps he would have been better named "Cpl. Punishment" "Here here, you oughtn't to do anything like that. Going around tying defensless people to railroad tracks is not the Canadian way."
     ~~ Dudley Do-Right of the Canadian Mounties

I love cartoons, don't you? But the times certainly have changed since that documentary (tongue inserted firmly in cheek) film I just shared with you about the exploits of Canada's finest, eh? Nope, no sirree, it isn't Dudly Do-Right's northwoods anymore my friends.

It seems that bondage, Fetlife, and the Royal Canadian Mounted Police are all tied together (please excuse the pun) in a news story coming from the thriving metropolis of Coquitlam, B.C., where Cpl. Jim Brown, (who despite sharing a surname is apparently unrelated to the Godfather of Soul and hardest working man in show business) of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police is under both an internal and an independent investigation for conduct unbe…

More Shades of Grey

Back in March, when I first began to hear a "buzz" about the Shades of Grey novels by E.L. James I was intrigued.  I asked Serafina to read the series as one of her slave assignments, and she did review the first book in April, but we've not made much special reference to the books since.

For the record, after reading the first book myself, I withdrew the assignment, I no longer saw any point in asking Serafina to continue.  The word I believe is the best descriptive for Ms. James work is execrable.

I'm not alone.  Well known BDSM author Laura Antoniou wrote a short parody, titled 50 Shades of Sellout, that I found very amusing.

Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist who is a specialist in treating sexual disorders, just put forth her two cents worth in a piece that was published in the Sydney Morning Herald, titled - Fifty Shades of Grey giving bondage a bad name.
The bestselling Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy by EL James has reportedl…

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TMI Tuesday - 7/10/2012

Michael's Answers

1. I could spend all day _______  but couldn’t stand five minutes  _______ .
I could spend all day reading, but couldn't stand five minutes with nothing to do.
Although I'm efficient in a work setting, I'm as productive as I wish to be in my own home, as I'm easily distracted by a good read, whether it's a book, on my kindle, or a blog I read when I'm at my computer.  I can easily get lost in books for hours at a time, but I hate being bored, sitting around with nothing to do.  I realized yesterday that one of my biggest nightmares would be to be trapped inside an elevator with absolutely nothing to do or read.
alt. answer - I could spend all day fucking but couldn’t stand five minutes trapped inside and elevator.

2. I would love to have a robot in my house to do _______  because no one else ever does.
I would love to have a robot in my house to do yardwork because no one else ever does.  I don't mind working in th…

what? that's my St. Andrew's Cross?

Yesterday afternoon Serafina and I traveled to see our friends Master Dream and precious treasure, another BDSM lifestyle couple who live about a 30 minute drive from our home.  They are always very good company to share, as it's nice to be able to discuss BDSM with like minded folks, and no matter the subject, there's always lively conversation when we're together.  We met because of our BDSM related websites, but I'm sure we'd all be friends regardless . . .

I knew it was going to be a special day, as Master Dream's BBQ skills were going to be on display, and there are very few things in this world I like more than slow cooked smoked meat.  I had no idea there was a very special surprise awaiting me.  The only clue I might have had was when Serafina told me on the way there that precious treasure had told her that Master Dream had something he wanted to show me.  I didn't figure it was his rubbed and seasoned meat!

Our get together had already been delaye…