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Self talk matters!

Self talk matters- A lot!

Sometimes when I feel I have failed at something I go into self-hatred.  Master has noticed my predisposition and I now have an edict that forbids me to continue destructive behavior.  Yes I am aware that there are some who carry that behavior by cutting or otherwise harm themselves physically.  When we speak self-debasing things about ourselves, we are doing as much, if not more damage, because it is not as apparent.  Therefore it can do far more harm, and ultimately destroy us.

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  1. Very thought-provoking. Thank you for posting this. We've often said that the mental or emotional toll is potentially as damaging as the physical toll.

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  2. Yes Jack and Jill, you are absolutely correct, the toll of mental/emotional wounds is just as bad as physical wounds, but they are less obviously apparent.

    My "edict" to Serafina was simple, no more saying "I'm stupid" or similar self debasing statements. I'm not trying to stifle her expression, simply channel it into more productive lines of thinking . . .

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  3. serafina,

    Omega has a strict rule against that kind of thing too. He doesn't tolerate it well at all...and we all know that mouse goes down that path often enough to cause him a lot of worry at times. It's gotten better recently. Might blog about it...

    Hugs,
    mouse

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    1. You are such a lucky girl to have such a wise Master. . .I know how blessed I am too!

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  4. Serafina and Michael: You raise a very important point. Destructive thoughts really have no value at all. They harm the mind and the body. If you try to adopt a thought of "All is well" even if it is not, you can create the space in your mind to look at whatever has gone wrong in a much more productive way. That's what I am working on anyway.

    I think the key here is to recognize that mistakes (probably rather small mistakes in the scheme of things, I suspect) are all right. This was a big part of the cognitive behavior therapy I undertook - to accept that mistakes WILL happen and that is okay. Once you look at them in that way you can train your mind not to be so harsh on yourself.

    It's lovely that Michael is helping you with this. I think that is D/s working most productively.

    Kind regards.

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  5. Thanks for your very sincere words Vesta, I treasure friends like you. Your counsel is right on. Sometimes we know in our heads, but the truth has to get into the heart.

    I am so truly rich to have such a wonderful Master and Friend, and Soul-Mate as Master Michael.

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