Today I found a post with a very simple question, and it inspired me to ponder the question. Just how much of what makes a person who is willing to become a Submissive slave compelling to a Dominant becomes lost as she looses herself to her Dominant? In other words, How much does a Submissive repress their goals, talents, or even her natural charm to become what the Sub thinks the Dominant wants. And is that the result the Dominant is looking for?
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Perhaps it is because the authors assume their kink is everyone's kink. Many authors leave out the details about how enjoyable it was to be humiliated, used for sex, and dropped off when she did not get even one thing she longed and hoped for in the beginning of the story. It escapes me somehow that a smart, talented person who jeopardize her entire career to do things that would bring any hopes of success to a complete halt by public scandal, yet I read stories like that so much of the time.
I am guessing that a lot of what is fantasy is simply that . . . fantasy. I have no issues with fantasy. I do have concerns that people are less able to separate fantasy from facts of living, and begin to live out aspects of fantasy that are fool-hearty.
I am also aware that there are submissives who do not have clear goals, dreams or even a clue about many things and might be in need of mentoring from a qualified Dominant.
I do struggle with 24/7 slavery at times. I do not struggle at all with submission. I embrace submission with all I am and have. I willingly sacrifice my agendas, and ideas to support that of Master. But I do think for myself. I don't believe that another person has any obligation to deliver punishment. I believe personally that everyone has an obligation to self-correct as much as possible. I also believe that every person has the right to ask for assistance if they feel defeated in their own efforts. However I am also convinced that attempting to control behavior, actions and thoughts by force of any kind does no good and brings resentment to both the Dominant and the Submissive.
I do welcome comments, as I am being incredibly transparent with my questions and thoughts. I am happy to try and expand what is not clear to our dear readers.
Thanks for stopping by.
EDIT: I want everyone to be aware that I am very deeply devoted to Master Michael. He is very careful to actually encourage me to become the very best me I can be. . he is even allowing me to attend Belly-Dance classes. He would give me the moon if I wanted it. Master is not the problem, just so you know.